can blended families work?

I am in a blended family and firmly believe it works.  In short, please give it time.  It takes a while for all to adjust to one another.  Even if the kids are older, consider feelings first and Put them First.  I work with many people that are in this situation, and feel it's time for us to talk more about it.  I've stepped into this 20 years ago and my greatest friend of all is my husband's ex wife.  We are family.  My ex husband and I took a while, but never gave up.  Hey, he spends his vacations at my house in the country.  I spent vacations in Maine in my wife-in-law's family home.  No, it's no picnic at first.  But you must bear in mind the state of harmony YOU and your lover want to be in.  If there is children involved please put them first.  Assure them of that and let time guide you.  Don't expect things to work out overnight.  Of course there will be negative feelings with everyone involved i.e. insecurity, anger, etc.  Focus on you and your partner.  Look into the eyes of the children and be determined to love.  No matter how bad the situation, if you want to make it work it will.  

Our family is growing and it is a wonderful experience to see the grandchildren coming!  Holidays are easier when we are all in one place and no one has to scramble around.  There is so much to say here, but I would like to get some opinions on how YOUR blended family is working.